So what is gossip anyway? The first thought that comes to mind is that it is ‘talking behind someone’s back.’ But that doesn’t satisfy a lot of scenarios:
- What if I’m telling another parent how proud I am of my son? Isn’t that talking behind my son’s back?
- What if I’m criticizing the President?
- What if I’m concerned about a friend who’s depressed and I’m seeking advice?
- What if a woman is sharing with a friend how much in love she is with a man she’s seeing?
- What if I’m venting about the driver who cut me off on the highway?
Gossiping typically involves the following ingredients:
- Talking about a specific person when they are not present.
- Is negative in that it makes the other person looks worse.
- Is ill-intentioned.
- Makes you look better.
- Occurs during idle time.
- Involves trivial things.
- Is frequently speculative.
- Centers around personal matters.
Let’s consider these seeds whenever we are talking about someone else, and what fruits those seeds might produce.
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